やめる
やめる
yameru
= to stop / to quit / to give up / to discontinue
Whether someone is kicking a bad habit, walking away from a job, or abandoning a plan midway, Japanese speakers reach for yameru to capture that deliberate act of stopping something ongoing. It carries a sense of personal decision — not just a pause, but a genuine discontinuation.
Yameru is a transitive ru-verb meaning to quit, stop, or discontinue something. The key is that it always applies to an ongoing activity or situation that a person consciously chooses to end. Common collocations include shigoto wo yameru (quit one’s job), tabako wo yameru (quit smoking), and gakkou wo yameru (drop out of school). It differs importantly from tomeru and tomaru, which describe stopping physical movement or halting a process from the outside — like stopping a car or pausing a machine. Yameru is about the actor’s own choice to discontinue something they were engaged in, whether a habit, a role, or a course of action.
The most common mix-up is between yameru and tomeru. Use yameru when someone quits or gives up an ongoing activity by their own decision (tabako wo yameru — quit smoking). Use tomeru when stopping movement or a running process (kuruma wo tomeru — stop the car). As a command, yame is the abrupt, masculine form (often heard from coaches or in anime), while yamete is the softer, more common casual request meaning ‘stop it’ or ‘cut it out’. In polite speech, yamemasu (present/future) and yamemashita (past) are the standard forms.
Everyday use
彼女は来月、会社をやめるつもりだ。
Kanojo wa raigetsu, kaisha wo yameru tsumori da.
She plans to quit her company next month.
Casual / Social Media
もうSNS見るのやめた。メンタルに悪い。
Mou SNS miru no yameta. Mentaru ni warui.
I’ve quit checking social media. It’s bad for my mental health.
Formal / Cultural context
健康のため、アルコールをやめることを決意いたしました。
Kenkou no tame, arukooru wo yameru koto wo ketsui itashimashita.
I have made the decision to give up alcohol for my health.
In Japanese work culture, the phrase kaisha wo yameru (quitting a company) carries significant social weight. Traditionally, leaving a stable job — especially a large corporation — was seen as a failure or act of betrayal toward colleagues. This cultural pressure gave rise to the term yaめられない (can’t quit), often used to describe workers trapped by duty or loyalty rather than salary.
The word also appears in the context of resolutions and self-improvement. Around New Year (oshogatsu), phrases like tabako wo yameru or osake wo yameru are among the most commonly stated personal goals in Japan, much like ‘quit smoking’ or ‘cut back on drinking’ in Western cultures. This gives yameru a connotation of willpower and self-discipline.
In casual speech among younger generations, yamete functions almost as a playful protest — used when a friend teases, embarrasses, or surprises someone. This softer, everyday use of the command form shows how yameru covers a wide emotional range, from a lighthearted ‘stop it!’ between friends to the gravity of resigning from a lifelong career.